Here’s another of Lou Culling’s fancy words he was so fond of using. It just means intercourse, having sex, sleeping together. But the use of an unfamiliar word, even when the meaning is obvious, does have a certain value of "stop, look, listen, pay attention."
Having Sex is more than a physical act. In the GBG’s Alphaism you were instructed to avoid any sexual thoughts, feelings and fantasies for an entire month. It was not so much denial as it was to emphasize their importance and the role they do play in whole and healthy sex whether within the context of Sex Magick or not. When you do have sex, all of these are present because sex is a complex of physical, emotional, energy, mental and spiritual exchange between two people.
Even fantasy is part of real sex whether recognized as such or not. Is your lover a "big, strong, heroic man?" Is she "beautiful, soft and loving?" No matter the outer reality, the answer through emotional fantasy is "yes" and that brings you into contact with the archetypal levels of the Subconscious and Collective Unconscious important to the program of Wholeness.
Openness with regard to emotion-level fantasies is important to release associated repression and fear and childish dependencies so the powerful fantasy Imago can become more inclusive of the "real" lover, making the exchange between two people deeper and stronger, building a partnership at all levels.
In Dianism and Sex Magick, the fantasized Imago is not the personal fantasy but rather that of a god or goddess. The technique is similar and the imagined god or goddess can eventually impose and transform the personal fantasy.
Even if others tell you that your lover is nothing but a beer-drinking no-good lay-about, this transformative power of the Imago is one of the greatest things that we can give and receive within our intimate relationship with our partner. With the added empowerment of Sex Magick, the old reality can become a new reality.
Suggested Reading
Culling, L. & Weschcke, C.: The Complete Magick Curriculum of the Secret Order G.'.B.'.G.'., 2010, Llewellyn.